Are you questioning your sexuality?

Coming out?

Thinking about divorce?

Or just finished the process?

We get it…

Are you in the process of considering sexuality for the first time? Are you thinking "Maybe I am not straight?" Have you identified as bisexual for a long time and now you are ready to explore further? Do you have a lot of questions? Are you not sure who to turn to or who to ask? Are you surrounded with straight friends and family, who may give not-so-helpful advice?

We got you!

Support when coming out later in life is incredibly important because it helps you manage a lot of big changes at once and embracing your new identity. Professional support can make everything feel less overwhelming by providing coaching and a safe space to talk things through. You can move forward with more confidence and less stress, knowing you're not alone during these major transitions.

We got you!

Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barbara Rowlandson are the coming out/divorce support coaches from Lotus Community Coaching. We have been there and done that. We both came out after years of marriage and kid, we went through painful divorces, and identify as lesbian and Queer.

We will help you navigate all the questions and concerns about embracing your sexuality and divorce.

WHO ARE WE?

WE HELP TRANS/CIS/NONBINARY FOLKS COMING OUT LATER IN LIFE* TO THE LGBTQIA+ COMMUNITY!**

***we help folks 20+ to well over 70!

How do I know you are a safe space?

Anne-Marie Zanzal and Barbara Rowlandson are the coming out coaches from Lotus Community Coaching. We both came out after years of marriage and kids. Both Anne-Marie and Barb identify as lesbian and Queer. Anne-Marie is married to her wife Tonda McKay and Barbara is liveing on a flower farm in Canada and is happily single.

Anne-Marie Zanzal started to coach the later in life community in 2018. Three years later, Barb joined the Anne-Marie Zanzal Coaching team. Together they have helped hundreds of women in the program and thousands of women online with content about coming out later in life. You'll find a wealth of information about coming out later in life in Anne-Marie's podcast, Coming Out & Beyond and website, www.annemariezanzal.com. Together, Anne-Marie and Barb help women one-on-one and in a group setting in the Lotus Community Coaching program.

What do you offer?

We offer many different options to learn, grow and find community:

Authentically Us - A Mighty Networks Community for LGBTQIA+ Women
Lotus Community Coaching - a mutual support program for women (trans, cis, nb) questioning their sexuality, coming out, and navigating divorce.
Lavender Dating - Support for women dating in the LGBTQIA+ worlds who are seeking monogamous relationships.
Online Courses - our first is Maybe I Am Not Straight? This course is for folks exploring their sexuality for the first time.
In person events for lesbian women called Wing Women Weekend. This is an opportunity for connection, learning, community, and FUN!

I am out only to my self. How will you protect my privacy?

We understand and respect your need for privacy. We understand that when you are in the beginning of this process it is difficult to even to talk to someone about all of this.

We have created an online affordable course that teaches why this is so F---ing hard.

Maybe I’m Not Straight?

Mini Course is Now Available for $35.00

Questioning Your Sexual Orientation and Not Sure What Comes Next?

You’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

Our Maybe I Am Not Straight mini course is designed specifically for those coming out later in life. Through powerful videos, thoughtful reflection exercises, and expert guidance, you’ll explore your identity in a compassionate, judgment-free space.

You'll gain clarity around:

The complexities of coming out later in life

Societal conditioning and compulsory heteronormativity

Internalized homophobia and how it shapes your story

The role of cognitive dissonance

How to begin finding and connecting with the LGBTQIA+ community

Led by Anne-Marie Zanzal, M.Div.—an expert in later-in-life coming out, divorce, and identity—this on-demand course can be taken at your own pace, whenever you're ready.

What’s Included:

The course lives inside Authentically Us, our supportive online community. You’ll receive:

One free month of membership

Full access to the course and the community

The option to stay for just $35/month—or cancel anytime

Ready to take the next step toward your authentic self? Join us.

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24 ONLINE EVENTS

A YEAR

11 LATER IN LIFE RETREATS

YEARS OF EXPERIENCE

1000+

COACHING CLIENTS

Listen to

Coming Out & Beyond

Sharing the coming out stories of the LGBTQIA+ community and so much more!

A great place to start in this journey is to hear other women's story of their realizations and their personal coming out stories. Season one and two are a great place start! Click the image on the right to watch on YouTube (you'll also find this podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and Google Podcasts).

We have helped thousands of women on their

later in life coming out journey

COMMUNITY

No woman is an island – you should not have to navigate difficult life changes alone! We build community for later-in-lifers for you to build friendships, to learn and grow from each other.

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DECONSTRUCTING RELIGION

Anne-Marie Zanzal is an ordained minister with Master of Divinity degree from Yale Divinity School. She is an expert in helping others understand their religious conditioning, and to reframe their perspective on what it means to be gay with God/Creator/the Universe and Faith.

Book Time & Talk to Anne-Marie

BEYOND YOUR CATALYST

Experiencing a catalyst relationship (a catalyst is a person who makes you realize that you may not be straight ) can be both an exciting and devastating experience. Barb is an expert on catalyst relationships, and can help you understand what you're going through – especially if you're struggling to recover from a breakup.

Book Time & Talk to Barb

1 on 1 Coaching

Anne-Marie and Barb offer 1-on-1 coaching in the Lotus Group Coaching program. This helps us really get to know our participants, and accelerates results.

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COMMUNITY COACHING

Community coaching is at the heart of our program and where the magic happens! In group sessions, participants see elements of their journey reflected in others, helping them to gain clarity. It is also where lasting friendships with other later-in-lifers are made!

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NAVIGATING DIVORCE

Although most people join us because they are coming out, more than half of our work with clients focuses on navigating all the ups and downs of divorce.

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Our Team

Anne-Marie Zanzal, M.Div

Anne-Marie Zanzal is a leader in the later in life community. When she came out there were very few resources for this experience. Anne-Marie is an ordained minister, clinically trained chaplain, and graduate of Yale Divinity School. She is a certified grief counselor who spent years working in hospice care. She recognized that when women come out later-in-life they often experience grief and many other emotions. Recognizing the gap in services for this community, she began coaching other women who were coming out, and formed Lotus Group Coaching. Anne-Marie has been featured in numerous podcasts, articles, programs and her story was a feature article in Oprah magazine. Today, she lives happily in Nashville, TN, with her wife, Tonda and their adorable pup, Theo.

Barb Rowlandson

Barbara Rowlandson was 45 years old when she awakened to her authentic sexuality. Barb fell in love with a close friend who became her catalyst. Her experience helped her understand why love, sex, and relationships with men never felt like a good fit. The end of this relationship was devastating, and she entered a period where she was homeless, jobless and extremely sick. Since then, she has picked up her life, piece by piece, become her own independent woman and learned to embrace life on her own terms. She has since dated and had other lesbian relationships, and helps others step out into the world of lesbian dating.. Barb's career as an online content strategist and manager has now taken a pivot to coaching, and she is currently earning her Master's of Counseling Psychology so she can better serve the later-in-life community.